Monday, June 30, 2014

“When an African tells you ‘no problem’, that’s when you begin to worry.”

23 June 2014….. Well I did originally write this a week ago but then the internet resolution went out in all of Dapaong for 3 days and I had to make it back to village…



“When an African tells you ‘no problem’, that’s when you begin to worry.”
(p. 285, “The Village of Waiting” by George Packer)
--> Priceless advice!

So, yes, I finally read one of the only books written about Togo… That is George Packer’s “Village in Waiting.”  I had heard mixed reviews from current and past volunteers because on one hand people think he’s too negative and on the other hand I and few others find him critical yet insightful.  It’s kind of scary how much hasn’t changed about Togo since the author served in 1982-83.  His critical lens and interpretation of local customs and traditions are interesting particularly for current volunteers in the same country.  There was one first year PCV who said he/she refused to read it because she didn’t want to “give him any more power than he already has… Plus he ET’ed (early terminated—left before his 2 years of service were finished).”  But I can only imagine how much harder his service was in comparison to ours.  I mean, as you’ve all read I have my fair share of difficulties and injuries, but he lived here without a cell phone, laptop, iPod, or even internet… All he had was a Peace Corps issued Vespa and a radio to keep him connected to the outside world.  And we think the roads and development are bad now, but reading through his tales and talking to RPCVs and locals, the 80’s “toughed it” a lot more.  I feel like I connected to the book and read it at an interesting time in my service- the end of my second year.  If you read it before or during your first year, I think people won’t appreciate it as much because they’re still getting used to the country and people themselves and trying to stay as positive and open as possible.  But by the second year, you are more accustomed to everything and everyone and are able to hear criticisms without it judging your own service too much.  Well, that’s what I think at least!

Interesting quotes from the book:

“…You just have to expect things not to work out, and you won’t get frustrated.” (p. 189)
à The author is referring to the extent of flexibility a PCV should hold when it comes to cultural differences in work ethics, time management and prioritizing… And just how, with limited resources and with a people whose schedule is wrapped around the rains and fields, things just don’t go as you planned.  So plan heavily and update frequently, do much follow-up along the way (and after) and keep low-expectations but high spirits.  Better to be pleasantly surprised than to be let down/frustrated.

“ … Eating in markets and riding in painful positions with local people on muddy back roads provided no direct line to the ‘real Africa’… You never get out of your white skin; you only experience Africa as a white on a tight budget.” (p.194)
à  Negative but truthful.  Peace Corps goals 2 and 3 are both about cultural sharing and understanding but one can never be 100% “integrated” (as it seems the VRF would like you to be) when you started out as a stranger.  Even people from the South who come to live in the North have problems integrating.  It’s partly due to the fact that Togo has so many local languages ranging from the Ewe of the Maritime Region to the Moba/Mosi/Gourma of the North.  Even some of the Moba people are different! There are different dialects depending on prefecture.  My host family comes from Naki-Ouest and their Moba is slightly different from the Moba of Tami-même.      

And now I’m reading, “The power of one,” by Bryce Courtenay.  It’s a book about a white boy growing up to be a boxer in racially segregated South Africa.  For anyone that’s read the book or is bored enough to look it up, the book starts by diving right into interesting, “…Before my life started properly, I was doing the usual mewling and sucking, which in my case occurred on a pair of huge, soft black breasts.  In the African tradition I continued to suckle for my first two and a half years, after which my Zulu wet nurse became my nanny.”  He goes on with battles with bullies, family dysfunction and odd but quirky adventures.  I’m not done reading yet but I’m definitely enjoying it.  Not many young boys can befriend a chicken…


The Scoop:

REPLACEMENT?:
There is a new system in place for Peace Corps Togo, where the volunteers get a say in their post! Unfortunately for the COS’ing PCVs (volunteers getting ready to leave, i.e. me) who want a replacement, we don’t find out if we are getting replaced until literally the week before their post visit.  So they, and we, find out the first week of July and then they get shipped off to visit the weekend of the second week of July. 

*update: Just found at 8pm the other night that I’m actually not getting replaced… I’m not too happy about it but I can deal.  I hope that my activities are that much more sustainable now without another PCV to take them over. 


DESKS:
All 90 desks and 7 chairs have been DELIVERED! Literally the day before I was leaving to Lomé for COS conference, the menusier (carpenter) was finally ready! I took a few snap shots and had to run back to Dapaong to get ready to leave down south but they were there and beautiful.  The guy who painted the names of the donors put a list of the names on each desk, starting on one side and finishing on the other.  I had envisioned one name per desk, but his idea was much better, so it was a very pleasant surprise.  So now that I’m back, we will hold a reception to celebrate the work done, take photos for the donors and then after the thank you’s the project is officially done.  Oh and not to mention that I closed out the funding too! In Lomé, after the GAD meeting, I got to work on the closing paperwork.  It wasn’t easy but by the following morning, everything was complete, turned in, reviewed and even the photos were given as well.  As I was finishing uploading the photos, the COS sessions had started so I missed a bit of the “welcome and debriefing” but I was sure to ask around for what I missed.  







GARDEN:
Still waiting on that mason… To be continued. 
In the mean time, I’ve been sharing some of my seed bank with my friends and coworkers. 


CAMPS:
I nominated 8 students, 2 apprentices, and 5 trainers.  But there are only 2 trainers, 2 students and 2 apprentices going off to programs this year.  One camp, Scientifille, is apparently not even happening… I still have to break the news to Simane; he’s going to be slightly heartbroken but I’m sure he’ll recover.  At any rate, I’ve got some Tami folk traveling and learning this summer! Now I just gotta make sure they all get there okay. 

I had a little mishap on the communication corner for Camp Joie but the girl student got there just fine.  The work partner I wanted to send, unfortunately didn’t make it.  That leaves 1 trainer, 2 apprentices and 1 student for Camp Unite to go.


WOMEN’S GROUP:
They are LEGIT.  The week after exam week, we held a meeting and we read through and signed the papers for them to be a government recognized social development group.  That same day, Larba, the Women’s Conference candidate really surprised me and stepped up to the plate.  I think she sensed I was being short with her prior because she was all over the place and not committing to things.  And then she changed.  What more can a PCV ask for? Well so, when the ladies were stirring the liquid soap, she decided to pull out some of her Women’s Conference materials and do a training session! She had these photos to spark discussion with prompts on the backs with topics such as hygiene, gender equality/equal education, and HIV/AIDS.  I didn’t understand most of what was going on because it was in Moba but the translation sounded good.  What’s most important is that they were talking about these things in general, and as a group of peers without any pressure from their husbands or anyone else. 

Also, all women but one have completed the loan program and paid back the entire 10,000 Francs!! So I printed certificates and photos for each of the 15 women to surprise them at our last meeting this past Wednesday… They thought we were just making soap again… Just soap? Hah! I even bought cookies and a “dicro” of Tachakpa (the local brew) to polish off the ceremony.  I Moba danced until my hip hurt … again!... and it was really a blast.  I’m so glad it all came together so well.  Oh and Emanuel Gobine made an appearance as well to help me talk about the future of the group with the women, and also to help translate and take pictures with certificates.  The PHI people who funded the microloan project would like me to keep the program going and keep the money in Tami, so Gobine and I were trying to figure out a way to make it most feasible and so we had a long meeting about the situation before I whipped out the party.  We had them decide as a group that they would meet at least once a month at the end of the month to make soap, collect loan funds, and count the group “caisse” (money case).  We also decided that we are not investing/ trusting the established microloan companies that come/stay in Tami because several people have complained about the companies claiming to have no funds to give back when the client wants the savings! And they continue to collect money?? I’m so glad I live in the USA, where there are at least bankruptcy laws to prevent further damage.  Anywho—we decided to buy a nicer case for the money because it’s currently an old coffee tin that I’ve been holding on to for the past 1.5 years.  And this case must have 2 locks, so that the 2 treasurers each get a key and then the secretary holds on to the case.  That way, the 2 keys and the box aren’t in the same place at the same time.  Well, it’s the best we can do with what we’ve got!  The women have been impressing me with our last few meetings, so I really have my fingers crossed that the group is sustainable, especially with Emanuel Gobine checking on them every so often.









GAD:
We have officially passed the torch! We held a meeting on the day before COS conference and it went really well and the new team seems so awesome and motivated.  I have a good feeling about this bunch and I can’t wait to see updates of wonderful future projects when I’m back in the States!


HOUSE MGMT:
This torch is also officially passed! As of June 1st, Winter was the only house manager (we decided that 2 were no longer necessary), and as of July 1st, Chelsea will be the one and only!


COS CONFERENCE:
One of the fastest trainings I’ve ever had.  And also, one with the best food! And A.C. and hot running water in the hotel rooms! Oh, and yes, we learned things too… I feel a bit more capable to properly leave the country where I’ve spent the last two years but I’m still somehow in a mind limbo.  And I feel a new appreciation for our Country Director, Lauren.  As a PCV way up North, I feel like I haven’t had the pleasure of really getting to know her or how she works, so this was a nice treat for me.  She’s an RPCV from West Africa (so props already), and she is super straight-forward and to the point.  She’s what PC Togo really needed, not to offend any priors or anything but she’s doing a great job and handling the PCVs well.  And to wrap up the conference, the hotel was on the beach and had a private pool… it was SO nice to be able to swim again! 



LAST “CONSEIL”:
This meeting was quite anticlimactic and a bit rushed but it went alright overall.  I had just gotten back from COS conference the night before and had to moto back to Tami just for the meeting and then head back to Dapaong because the Bike Tour started the next morning with a 2-3 hour ride to Timbou.  And lucky Mr. Basile got to do all my work for me, as titulaire of the 5ieme class I have to find class averages and such.  Because he was the last teacher to finish with the block of report cards for my class and he didn’t finish before I went to Lomé, he didn’t have much choice but to help me.  So he had to calculate overall averages for the semester and school year, then do statistics by gender on success percentages (exams, class and overall).  What a sweet heart =) … So after the meeting, we went to my bar where the director bought us a round and served up some grub that he prepared at his house and brought over.  Everyone seemed pressed to leave and do other things, but at least we got some last moments together as a group.  Although they were big pains in my butt, I still think of them as my big brothers and will miss the buggers.   

I’ve printed up photos for them as well and plan to hand them out at the distribution of the report cards on Thursday.  I wrote a note to each of the teachers on his group photo in English, each one starting, “To my big brother Mr. ….” and ending “Love Larba Kristina”.   


BIKE TOUR:
9th June: Ride via bicycle from Dapaong to Timbou (30 km)
10th -11th June: Sessions with women in Timbou on rehabilitation of malnourished infants
12th June: Bike Ride from Timbou to Tami (40 km)
13th-14th June: Sessions with women in Tami on rehabilitation of malnourished infants
15th June: Bike ride from Tami to Bogou (45 km)
16th-17th June: Sessions with women in Bogou on rehabilitation of malnourished infants

18th: Back to Dapaong!
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In general, it was a great experience with a few bumps in the road.  10 days on the road with both Togolese and Americans and females and males would be rough for any group, but we got through it! I learned a valuable lesson to not let your Major pick your work partner but instead pick someone that you know and trust and have worked with to do a project like this.  I was a bit disappointed by the sexist, lazy old man assigned to me but he turned out not so bad in the end and hopefully he can pick up the slack and do some great M&E (Monitoring and Evaluating) work when I’m gone.  The hardest part was hosting 9 people in my humble village abode! I think my favorite part besides playing with babies and hanging with the pals, was the bike riding! This time of year, Savanes is really beautiful, and the back roads that we took we just breathtaking.  And we made some pit stops and field trips that were pretty fun.     
























RANDOM:

I went for an unexpected hike the other day…  up Mount Tampialim… And found bamboo in the Savannah of Togo! The experience was cool, but boy did I sweat a beautiful stain in my panye dress from the heat and the workout of the mountain. 




My second to last VRF (Trimester Volunteer Report) is completed and turned in.  My last one will probably only add the bike tour because this VRF reporting period was until May 31st and the tour started June 9th.  I like when I have finished one because it makes me really look at what I’ve accomplished… Kind of like my blog posts, except less photos. 

My boyfriend, Djato, is closer to having a “real” (paid) job! After what seems like months of waiting, the government finally got their act together and announced the regions of all health workers.  He was super disappointed to find out they assigned him to Maritime (the region furthest south).  So, being the awesome person he is, he went down to Lomé and requested to switch with someone who was in the opposite situation… And it worked! He got back from Lomé last night and told me that he has to wait on a letter from the Lomé office and they can place him up here in the Savanes region.  So by July 1st, he should be moving somewhere to work that isn’t too far away and where he can speak Moba! He’s just such a hard worker and good person, I don’t know what to do with him… *************JUST KIDDING?..... This just changed as of Sunday June 29th…. He got a call that his case/request was reviewed and rejected.  They want him to go all the way down south, near Aneho, and spend a few weeks working there before making any kind of changes.  He’s super disappointed and we are both pretty drained emotionally and monetarily over this ordeal.  I really don’t know where we stand now.  It’s my last month in country and my best friend won’t be in village or anywhere close by… He wants me to come down and stay with him for at least a week or two but he doesn’t even have a room yet, or a plan to eat or anything.  And I still need to wrap up things up here! Well I will be going down to Lome on July 7th to do my COS medical exam on the 8th and come back.  Maybe I can swing in a visit to my Djato?...



I’ve accepted to take on 2 part-time jobs when I get back to NM.  One is helping Dr. Stephanie with a starting a new program and the other is nanny-ing for the twins of this couple who are friends with my Big Sis, Gretchen.  Both of those sound manageable for adjusting back to American life at the same time… Now I need to find SOMEPLACE TO LIVE!! Since Gretchen moved to Santa Fe with Mark, it’s too far to commute and there are more job opportunities in Albuquerque for me.  If anyone knows someone in Albuquerque looking for a roommate (or who has a spare couch for a bit) let me know! *** Or maybe I will live with them?? IDK!!

In general, the last few months have been odd.  I have probably felt just about every emotion humanly possible… Happy, angry, sad, excited, anxious, calm, tired, wired… I’m so bipolar these days! And speaking a minimum of two languages a day makes my head that much more screwed up... There is just a little over a month left and when I think about it, my head becomes a cloud of thoughts scattered from Togo to New York to New Mexico.  I’ve started cleaning things in my house and giving/ throwing things away and that’s helping literally sort through things in my head as well. 





And now I shall end this entry with a few Buddhist quotes that I read in my “Buddhist Wisdom” book, while using my latrine…

“You are criticized if you talk too much.  You are criticized if you talk too little.  You are criticized if you talk just enough.  No one escapes criticism…Train your mind to carry the weight of criticism.”

“There is no fire like passion.  There is no grasp like hate.  There is no trap like illusion.  There is no flood like craving.”

“You are what you think.  Pain will follow bad thoughts as certain as happiness will follow good ones.”



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